Stop Sober Shaming
Have you ever dealt with it? That you were criticized directly or indirectly for the fact that you have taken an alcohol break and therefore do not drink alcohol? They came up with a campaign on this in England some time ago: #stopsobershaming.
Sober shaming makes someone feel uncomfortable because they don't drink. Sober shaming makes others feel that their decision not to drink is wrong, boring, or even offensive. Not drinking alcohol — whether for one night, a month, or long term — should be a decision we can all make freely and respect others. When we "shame soberly," we make that decision that much harder and contribute to a culture where drinking is the default, not a choice.
Reasons behind sober shaming
People who "soberly shame" don't do it on purpose. Often it is unintentional and meant as a joke, but it can still be very harmful - especially when combined with all the other messages we get that drinking is 'normal' and not drinking is not.
Sometimes people "soberly shame" to mask their own relationship with alcohol. They may not be ready to deal with their own drinking, and someone who doesn't drink can make them feel uncomfortable.
Sober shaming can have several adverse consequences
Social isolation People can feel isolated and left out if they feel they are not accepted by their friends, family or social circle because of their choice to stay sober. Mental health Sober shaming can lead to feelings of shame, guilt, and self-doubt in those who are stigmatized. This can affect people's mental health and lead to anxiety and depression. Relapse risk If people feel stigmatized for choosing to stay sober, it can undermine their resolve and increase the risk of relapse, especially for people recovering from addiction. Stigma reinforcement Sober shaming reinforces the broader stigma around addiction and recovery. It can discourage people from talking openly about their challenges and seeking help, hindering wider awareness and destigmatization efforts. Undermining of autonomy Insulting or criticizing someone's choice to stay sober undermines individuals' right to make their own decisions about their lifestyle and well-being. Loss of trust Sober shaming can lead to a loss of trust in social interactions and relationships, which can make people feel uncomfortable around others. |